tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7737268075572482842.post2735571016258397213..comments2023-10-29T04:33:48.167-05:00Comments on daddyBstrong: Lesson 8: Be Man or Woman Enough to ForgiveMac Daddy Tribute Bloghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01483912561779369669noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7737268075572482842.post-78871876066920232562009-05-13T14:15:00.000-05:002009-05-13T14:15:00.000-05:00Laurel: Sometimes it's too early to forgive. Somet...Laurel: Sometimes it's too early to forgive. Sometimes, a person needs time to fully acknowledge what was done, step back from it, think on it, and then begin to forgive. But forgiveness is similar to grief in that there is no time-frame for it. You figure how to do it in your own time, your own way. Blessings.Mac Daddy Tribute Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01483912561779369669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7737268075572482842.post-47590305711376480102009-05-13T11:57:00.000-05:002009-05-13T11:57:00.000-05:00MacDaddy, if I can't yet forgive, if I'm still too...MacDaddy, if I can't yet forgive, if I'm still too angry and hurt, does that make me less of a woman? I"m trying; I really am. It's just hard for me to forgive the one that caused me so much pain and is now relishing in it. Nasty chickie. <br /><br />I guess, put another way...is there a timeline for forgiveness?MountainLaurelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10512030002803787636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7737268075572482842.post-63218644240103611502009-03-29T15:17:00.000-05:002009-03-29T15:17:00.000-05:00Jah: What a wonderful statement! Thank you.Jah: What a wonderful statement! Thank you.Mac Daddy Tribute Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01483912561779369669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7737268075572482842.post-72212230251667853392009-03-29T07:45:00.000-05:002009-03-29T07:45:00.000-05:00Incredibly powerful post. However you get there, f...Incredibly powerful post. However you get there, forgiveness frees you. I prayed for 7 years to forgive, to be forgiven, and to discover that peace within me, can only come from me (and my God). Hatred steals your peace. It had been a long, difficult, and soul searching lesson to learn how not to give that kind power over to someone else to dictate my strength and emotions. As Solomon said, it's a work in progress. Well worth creating a personal roadmap to get there. Now there's the other side of the spectrum. You really don't want to be so forgiving as to forget the travesties of the Bushites. Some scars are better left intact to serve as a reminder that we must continue to "believe in the best of humanity..." and "...there is a better nature in human beings." Like Barak for instance. And, I fish.<BR/><BR/>jahAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7737268075572482842.post-68872662614438332602009-03-28T21:44:00.000-05:002009-03-28T21:44:00.000-05:00CurvyGurl: It makes me feel especially good to kno...CurvyGurl: It makes me feel especially good to know you're enjoying this series. I know you work in the health field. It's good to hear from you again. Thanks.Mac Daddy Tribute Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01483912561779369669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7737268075572482842.post-28625279728714311842009-03-28T21:41:00.000-05:002009-03-28T21:41:00.000-05:00Amen! I'm planning a post on this very issue. It d...Amen! I'm planning a post on this very issue. It definitely starts with numero uno. I've only recently been able to truly forgive myself and others. In my book, having a heart of forgiveness sets you free. Wonderful series, MacDaddy!♥ CG ♥https://www.blogger.com/profile/06312573343401136201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7737268075572482842.post-23007108018053077572009-03-28T18:10:00.000-05:002009-03-28T18:10:00.000-05:00There is a ton of wisdom in this article, Mac. I l...There is a ton of wisdom in this article, Mac. I love the graphic too. I just know I'll have trouble forgiving Bush and Cheney though : )<BR/> <BR/>VernaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7737268075572482842.post-8275182257300021222009-03-28T18:07:00.000-05:002009-03-28T18:07:00.000-05:00Christopher: I forgot to mention his entire name, ...Christopher: I forgot to mention his entire name, which is Warwick Dunn. What's so funny about this is that Warwick Dunn is a very strong community leader in Atlanta, and not just an athlete. He helps build houses for the poor.Mac Daddy Tribute Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01483912561779369669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7737268075572482842.post-81425793646278240502009-03-28T14:05:00.000-05:002009-03-28T14:05:00.000-05:00Anon1: You said you gave this person and reconcile...Anon1: You said you gave this person and reconciled with him. I'm glad you learned from the experience, but I guess you know that forgiving someone doesn't necessarily mean that you stay with someone or go back to someone. It also doesn't mean you forget what that person did. Sometimes, it's best to forgive but move on.<BR/><BR/>nicki: The importance thing is to examine honestly what happened with that person, forgive that person and yourself (if appropriate)and move on. If moving on for you means shutting the door on the relationship, perhaps that's the best thing. I'm not sure anyone is better prepared to make this decision than you.<BR/><BR/>Christopher: As I mentioned, forgiving is tough. And I'm not asking someone to do it. I'm suggesting that it's healthier to do so. <BR/><BR/>I just got through reading a story about a half back for the Atlanta Falcons. Recently, he visited the man who killed his mother. They got into a room for a long time. And the guy said what he did and where he was psychologically at the time and how he has changed since then. Dunn said he forgave him and how a heavy burden was lifted from him. That may not happen with everyone, but it certainly happens to a lot of people, once they forgive.Mac Daddy Tribute Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01483912561779369669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7737268075572482842.post-33882027968013125462009-03-28T13:16:00.000-05:002009-03-28T13:16:00.000-05:00This for certain is my most serious flaw. Not so ...This for certain is my most serious flaw. Not so much that I harbor hate or seek revenge I just shut the door (and rarely return) which might be worse. That's always been my defense against serious offenses. This probably goes hand in hand with me not being a big verbal communicator.nicki nicki tembonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7737268075572482842.post-80280044911708771082009-03-28T12:37:00.000-05:002009-03-28T12:37:00.000-05:00I agree, Christopher. I've had the experience of ...I agree, Christopher. I've had the experience of living though a very rough path to the forgiveness of someone I loved and trusted--who abused my trust and lied to me--only to find the same behavior continuing after the painful forgiveness and reconciliation. I'm glad I tried. I'm glad I forgave. But I'm also glad I detached myself from this person. Once is enough. Live and learn.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7737268075572482842.post-76052039413756896552009-03-28T10:14:00.000-05:002009-03-28T10:14:00.000-05:00Forgiving is tough.Somethings, are more easily for...Forgiving is tough.<BR/><BR/>Somethings, are more easily forgiven than other things.<BR/><BR/>However, in life, there are some things beyond human forgiveness.<BR/><BR/>Ask an adult victim -- woman or man, who was sexually abused a child if they forgive their abuser. Or, a man or woman who had a loved one taken from them by the hands of a murderer.<BR/><BR/>I think asking them to forgive is unreasonable.Christopherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15788931352232874850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7737268075572482842.post-35332062488852923542009-03-27T23:33:00.000-05:002009-03-27T23:33:00.000-05:00No. Sometimes I'm just too spoiled, self righteou...No. Sometimes I'm just too spoiled, self righteous and generally arrogant to forgive. It takes a lot of pain and sleepless nights sometimes.SagaciousHillbillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09511441325695460501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7737268075572482842.post-31699892705718106242009-03-27T18:25:00.000-05:002009-03-27T18:25:00.000-05:00Brilliant post,This is an excellent post brother M...Brilliant post,<BR/>This is an excellent post brother MacDaddy! I'm struggling with this one as well. Like you said, American society expects one thing and our moral foundations say something else. <BR/><BR/>I'll I'm saying is I struggle with this one too! <BR/><BR/>Blessings, Brother! Keep up the great writings!Vertishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13903351135854868487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7737268075572482842.post-30154647922287644932009-03-27T15:06:00.000-05:002009-03-27T15:06:00.000-05:00Solomon:I'm working on this one too. I thought I h...Solomon:I'm working on this one too. I thought I had gotten beyond hatred and revenge, but I now see that forgiveness is not a one-time thing but a practice and a challenge that continues throughout one's life. Blessings.Mac Daddy Tribute Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01483912561779369669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7737268075572482842.post-80107635845998419342009-03-27T14:31:00.000-05:002009-03-27T14:31:00.000-05:00I've been working on this one MacDaddy, it is a wo...I've been working on this one MacDaddy, it is a work in progress, it is more difficult than it sounds.<BR/><BR/>But I keep trying!Solomonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10176268052979859960noreply@blogger.com